Today’s the day! You have promised yourself that today you will wake up feeling refreshed, ready to go and motivated to work towards those goals! Yay! It’s 7:00 am and you start with a nice hot cup of coffee and sit down in front of your computer to make a list of things you’re going to accomplish today:
-Eat healthy and log food
-Go for a walk
-Dye your hair
-Clean out your closet
-Work on the Yard
Ah! This feels great, doesn’t it? It’s 7:20 and you decide to turn on the TV for a minute, just to check what’s going on. You head to the kitchen to grab another cup of coffee so you can relax in for a bit. While the Keurig does it’s thing, you put away a few clean dishes. And then you spot them…The chocolate doughnuts you got as a treat for the kids. Because they’ve been going through so much and you wanted to reward them. They deserve it! Life is so hard doing school online and not being able to socialize with their friends. But you’re not going to give in to this temptation because you have goals, and resolve, and determination…Okay, you decide to only have one. Just one. One won’t even matter, and there are still plenty left for the rest of the fam. You go back to the comfy couch, cover yourself up with a blanket, and enjoy that doughnut while you watch The Today Show. But wait a minute; what is that sound? It’s the doughnuts! They are beckoning you. They are telling you it’s okay to have another one. It’s only two and you will be good for the rest of the day. Besides, you’re going to walk.
You’re four doughnuts in when it hits you. You’re not motivated. You’re making lists of things that aren’t happening. You have a day or two during the week where you feel a little “high” and accomplish some tasks, but the lows are truly dominating.. You are settling into this new life, but you don’t feel like your old self. You’re lonely. You feel anxious. You’re snapping more than usual. Happy Hour is starting earlier and earlier. You haven’t showered in two days. All of the old stuff is coming to the surface. Maybe it’s a failed relationship, a career that never happened, or grief you never fully processed. This isn’t the life you signed up for. You’re sinking deeper into some kind of funk that you don’t even recognize.
You are not alone. Life is incredibly challenging for so many of us right now. Not only is there no shame is seeking help, but there is great strength!
Maybe you just need someone to help you regain your mojo, or improve your relationship, or help hold you accountable for shifting into a healthier lifestyle. Perhaps you’ve felt sad or anxious for some time, or you’re having trouble finding love.
I would be honored to help you during this time. Please reach out to schedule a Telehealth appointment as soon as next week. Don’t wait to get the help you need. Call Julie Ingenohl, LMFT at 860-268-6985 or email jingenohl@charter.net.
www.JulieIngenohlCT.com